1. Arrogance and insensitivity to others - Whether it’s yelling, screaming, and berating, or a more subtle approach to letting everyone else don’t they don’t matter, everybody can’t stand an arrogant jerk.
2. Not listening - Not listening is another way of displaying arrogance and insensitivity, even if you don’t mean to be.
3. Manipulative - Getting things done by manipulating people shows a lack of authenticity and keeps people guessing what your true intentions are. It fosters a lack of trust.
4. Lack of integrity - Lying, cheating, fibbing, blaming others for your mistakes – it only takes one mistake to ruin a reputation for life.
5. Selfishness - A "me first" approach, inability to collaborate or build a team, and unwillingness to collaborate.
Leaders of these sins seldom know it. They always deny them. They will read this and say, "Right on. I know people who should read this." The only way to know if one is guilty is to actually listen to others, maybe even someone we do not like.
If you've ever been told you display any of these traits, then do yourself and everyone around you a big favor – get some help!
Unfortunately, a lot of very "successful" and experienced leaders shrewdly use these very same characteristics to their advantage. You can achieve short-term success by lying, cheating, and abusing your power. However, at some point, it’s going to catch up to you. In the meantime, you’ll end up "lookin" like a fool.
[from Great Leadership by Dan McCarthy]